Thursday February 11, 2010 Day 11

Scaling the Obstacles of Unity
We all know it can be a steep climb from where we are to where we actually want to be .
We can't read each others minds no matter how alike we may be. We are all human so misinterpretation and misunderstandings are inevitable.
Sometimes we seem to have a "me first"attitude. It's just human nature to say "I 'll meet your needs is you meet mine". When I thought about this , I am one of the most selfless people that i know. But i can say truthfully , even though I love my husband from the depths of my soul, I still expect him to do a few things to keep me chasing after him. I say my love is unconditional, but is it really? And sometimes I would like to get my needs met without thinking about what those around me need. We have to learn how to compromise and discover creative solutions that meets the needs of both people.
We all have faults and mess up. Many relationships are buried by the mountain of mistakes. Every one of us has been hurt.You want to protect yourself from being hurt again, but this only leads back to the "me first" attitude. We have to be the kind of people who face obstacles and keep moving ahead. To really love people in our lives we have to learn to work through the mistakes and push beyond our self interests. We have to grow in willingness and our ability to be able to pour ourselves into those we love. Motivating them to stay on the right track, and empowering them to perservere.
Acceptance means to stop trying to CHANGE people and sart CHERISHING them. And cherishing someone means you value them enough to understand them . I once asked my husband to mop the floor when we only had like fifteen minutes before leaving somewhere. I had the water and mop ready to go all he had to do was mop it , I would even let out the water and put the mop away. I needed him to do is I was having back probelms. He mopped it but it took him thirty minutes, I mean every square inch was glistening and you could have offered guests in to eat off it. I did not get mad that we were now late, I instead understood that he does everything one hundred and ten percent, that is one of the reasons I was attracted to him. But I did realize that if I wanted him to do something for me to allow plenty of time as he was going to do it his way and it was going to be done right.
Obstacles, misunderstandings, selfishness, and mistakes are part of every relationship, but we can overcome them and grow closer if we are willing to practice acceptance, loving actions and ongoing forgiveness.
Write down what you think each important relationship in your life needs to be healthier.
It may be as simple as spending more time together or discussing an unspoken issue.